The Win-Win Waltz

The best gift you can give yourself, your spouse, your children and your grandchildren is to learn the skills for a strong and loving marriage.  In this engaging and informative DVD, actors portray participants in a Power of Two weekend workshop. Watch it again and again and you too will learn to replace tension and argument with friendly dialogue.   

Can all conflicts be resolved cooperatively?  At Power of Two, we believe the answer to that question is a clear and solid YES.  With the skills of the win-win waltz, plus some creative thinking, you can transform all of your his way--her way differences into opportunities for finding gratifying our-way solutions.   

Learn how to

• Talk about sensitive issues and evoke interest, not defensiveness
• Listen in a way that consistently enables both of you to feel heard
• Dialogue with productive yes-and strategies that keep you feeling like partners
• Turn arguments into opportunities for shared creative thinking
• Find win-win solutions for every marriage dilemma.

$19.95, new video on DVD

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The Angry Couple: Conflict Focused Treatment VIDEO

• Dr. Heitler demonstrates her highly original approach for helping couples to cut through impasses and build a more positive relationship.
  
  The video recreates key moments in a six-month therapy with a distressed couple in their early 30’s who seem locked in irreconcilable conflict.
   

• Who is this video for?
  Originally designed as a teaching tape for therapists, new and seasoned clinicians alike give it rave reviews. In addition, couples engaged in self-help or curious about couples' therapy also find the tape inspirational and informative.

Was $20.00 now $10.00 Video 75 minutes, color ISBN 1-56784-406-5

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The Angry Couple dramatically recreates key moments in the six-month course of counseling with Judith and Richard, a distressed couple whose marriage is threatened by a cycle of explosive anger and silent withdrawal. Dr. Heitler quickly reins in their anger, cuts through the impasses that have prolonged their conflict, and uncovers the core issues that have blocked intimacy from flourishing.

Watch Dr. Heitler in action in this counseling video, and you'll learn how to:

• Gain control in the first session, and keep subsequent sessions safe
• Defuse anger in the therapy office, without taking sides
• Teach techniques for preventing anger escalations at home
• Convert inflammatory interactions to cooperative dialogue
• Help couples develop positive communication skills, so core issues are addressed and resolved.

The Angry Couple couples counseling video offers a solid framework for students, fresh perspectives for seasoned therapists, and engaging learning for couples looking to enhance their relationship.

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From Conflict to Resolution

• Dr. Heitler unites various schools of therapy with a powerful insight: Conflicts, within and between people, lie at the core of emotional distress. Emotional healing depends on movement from conflict to resolution. Therapists, whatever their belief system, serve as guides along the way, and therefore must be expert at conflict resolution. With lively case examples, and immediately useful treatment strategies, this book has proven a favorite for therapists of all levels of experience.
• Who is this book for?
  Primarily for therapists. Also of interest to lawyers and to the sophisticated general psychology reader, this book has a comprehensive, integrative perspective about therapy.

$16.95 Book 350 pages ISBN 0-393-31093-0 (1993)

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The Power of Two details the communication and conflict-resolution skills that happy couples use to deal with differences.

"Dr. Heitler teaches the skills that make marriage successful. With easy-to-remember guidelines and entertaining examples, she shows us how to create satisfying dialogue, resolve conflicts, and deepen intimacy to insure a joyful and lasting marriage." John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

• Cooperative dialogue
• Conflict resolution strategies
• Shared decision making
• Expressing and receiving anger
• Recovering after upset
• Helping when your partner has a problem
• Making a good marriage great

$15.95 Book ISBN 1-57224-059-8 (paper, 1997)

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The Power of Two Workbook: Communication Skills for a Strong and Loving Marriage
            By Susan Heitler, Ph.D. and Abigail Hirsch, MA

With this step-by-step workbook you can learn the communication and conflict resolution skills that make married life flow smoothly.  Brief explanations are followed by fun practice exercises.  Talk Together questions guide you in discussing your new skills with your life partner.

Maximize your relationship’s potential! 

• Speak your mind in a way that invites your partner to hear your concerns with interest, not antagonism.

• Listen so your conversations flow cooperatively.

• Resolve your differences with the "win-win waltz."

• Keep anger constructive.

• Clean up after distressing upsets with effective apologies that prevent similar upsets in the future.

• Avoid the Big-3 Mistakes couples make.

• Learn to nurture love with affectionate intimacy in a warm and happy home. 

To learn the most from your Power of Two Workbook

• Purchase two workbooks so each of you can fill out all the practice examples.

• Work independently, and then share your answers.

• For deeper background understanding, read the companion book, The Power of Two: Secrets to a Strong & Loving Marriage.

$19.95  ISBN  1572243341  (8.5 X 11, 200, pgs., 2003)
      
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